falling back…

a couple of weeks ago, mr. drew-shane daniels wrote an article for clutch titled, “fall back”.

the title alone piqued my interest and compelled me to actually read (instead of skim) it. i was pleasantly surprised as mr. daniels tapped into a topic that i found both interesting and highly personal. my #vaultism prevents me from going into detail, but, just know that i am intimately acquainted with the concept of ”falling back”. *insert bbm zipped lips smiley*

side-note: because the author is writing from a male-perspective, his ‘words to the wise’ are directed towards his female readers. but, i can’t help but to wonder how his advice might be altered if he were to address his brethren.

at any rate, the very first sentence drew me in:

“The struggle in liking someone is that it’s very, very hard to swallow the reality of how much you actually like them.”

#ohboy. um. wow. yah…there it is. isn’t this THE probable cause for allllllllllll #operationfallbacks in existence? of course it is. men and women alike are SO fearful of being found ‘doing too much’. i get it. (more than you will ever know) however, when you end up doing nothing cuzzah that fear…? you’re failing. miserably.

mr. daniels goes on to say that: “…Relationships are made up of two people’s emotions, two people’s wants, and two people’s needs.” really? is that it? it’s that simple? i think so. i trulllllllly believe that WE overcomplicate our relationships. either it is or it isn’t.

unfortunately, we often can’t answer the question(s) about what IS. i just recently had someone tell me that people in relationships should always be able to assess and communicate ‘where they are’ and ‘how things are going’ in any relationship in which they find themselves. sounds good, but…it is a rarity. unless…you’re mature enough to put on your big girl (or boy) pants and have those sometimes uncomfortable conversations. emotions are a bish, no? lol.

anyhoo…back to the article.

i lovelovelove it. it was refreshing. it was enlightening. it was affirming. a couple of days ago, a friend of mine expressed concern over letting a guy she was interested in know it. i thought of mr. daniels and sent her the link. i can only hope that she found the strength (yes, it takes some) to exhale and realize that it is indeed okay to express an interest — particularly, if it’s reciprocative one.

i purposely haven’t gone into A LOT of detail on this article. go. read. it. #youwontbesorry

but, i will leave you with one more ‘golden nugget’ — mr. daniel’s closing statement: “So you want to fall back?  Be cautious, you just might miss out.” #POW

so, yah. falling back may have you falling out…of what could be the #greatloveofyourlife.

#thatisall

smiling will get you nowhere…

being that this is the 2nd post for today…forgive its random nature.

wait.

i’m always random here…and, everywhere else. *shrug*

anyhoo…i wanted to tell yall (who is yall? who is reading this? #theyllnevertell) about this cutie that i caught eyeballing me on saturday night (multiple times).

the reason why this is memorable is because at one point, after a few quick glances…he looked me dead in my eye…i returned the favor — with one of my award-winning smiles. he then smiled back. but, i broke the gaze — the intensity seemed to have gotten to me a lil’ bit. (lol!)

at any rate, it happened again. only this time, i was giggling a lil’ bit…when i looked up again. it was then that i saw that he’d taken a step towards me and stopped.

phock.

did he think i was laughing at him? i so wasn’t. i dunno what i was doing. schoolgirl nervousness? (is that a word?) at any rate…he didn’t approach. and, other than another quick glance he kept it moving.

now.

because i am who i am…i wasn’t hardly going to approach him. but, since it’s thursday and i still remember his spectacularly, sparkly (thanks to my new @twitter buddy for that one) smile…i’m wishing i had.

if you were me in that situation…other than not goofing it up in the first place, would you have approached HIM? yesnoMAYBEso?

hollahatchagirl…